You meet someone and go away with him or her for just a few days. It sounds crazy, but that’s exactly what the dating trend “holidating” is all about.
You get on a plane with the person you just met in a restaurant or café and get to know each other better on holiday. But can that really work out?
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“Traveling with someone you barely know is always risky,” psychologist Hilda Burke told Stylist magazine. The expert goes on to explain: “It’s an incredibly intense experience and – unlike a date in your hometown – there’s no escape if things don’t go well.”
These are the special features of “holidating”
According to Hilda Burke, “holidating” can also have certain advantages: “In this way, you learn how the other person deals with different cultures and special situations: the flight is cancelled, one person loses the Baggageetc. You get an impression of the other person that you would never get otherwise – that’s why this intimacy is a good way to get to know each other.”
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In these cases, “holidating” becomes dangerous
But there are also disadvantages – and that’s what makes the dating trend so dangerous. Because you’re traveling with a complete stranger. Experts warn that traveling with a stranger is risky: After all, it’s difficult to escape the situation if things don’t go well.
And then there’s another catch. “In one study, we found that when you’re in a precarious situation with a stranger, you find that person more attractive than if you met the same person in a neutral place,” says Dr. Arthur Aron of New York’s Stony Brook University.
In plain language, this means: If you are eating with your date in Venice, standing on a suspension bridge in the jungle or in front of the pyramids in Egypt, you will find the other person much more attractive than if you were to meet them at home.
Adrenaline levels can skyrocket due to the positive stress – and that also makes the date much more attractive. This was discovered by a study from McKendree University in Illinois. Expectations for a romantic vacation should therefore not be high so that you are not disappointed when you get home.
The original of this article “Holidating”: The dating trend is brave – but can also end dangerously comes from KUKKSI.
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