Do you want to seem more likeable to other people, but don’t know how? Five things in body language tend to have a negative effect on the other person. We reveal how you can improve your body language.
by Leonie Oldhafer, online editorial team Published: January 22, 2025
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“You cannot not communicate,” said the Austrian psychoanalyst and philosopher Paul Watzlawick.
The scientist has put forward many theses about what is involved in communication – the so-called non-verbal language of the body also finds a place in it.
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That’s why body language is so important
To Body language include posture, movement, gestures and facial expressions. When you look at other people, you usually subconsciously scan their faces, the movements of their hands and their posture. This way you can get an impression of the person you are talking to in a split second – even without speaking to each other.
So that you don’t unintentionally send wrong signals, you should pay particular attention to the following postures in yourself.
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Can be unsettling: Exaggerated facial expressions
Frowning or rolling your eyes in particular can unsettle the person you’re talking to – even though you may not mean it in a negative way. Even if facial expressions are usually not easy to control, a smile on the lips appears much more likeable.
Always maintain eye contact
Anyone who is dishonest looks away. Even small children often do that. Even as an adult, looking away often seems like you’re trying to hide something. This can make your counterpart suspicious.
However, avoiding eye contact can also be a sign of insecurity and disinterest. So if you’re listening to the person you’re talking to or have something to say, don’t look around.
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Constantly looking at the clock seems impatient
Let’s be honest, if you’re telling a story and the person you’re talking to is looking at the clock, the joy of the conversation will most likely quickly fade away, won’t you?
Anyone who checks the time often seems impatient and shows less respect for the person they are talking to.
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Don’t get too close to the person you’re talking to
In the film, the characters are quite close to each other in front of the camera. In reality, this would make many people uncomfortable. A healthy distance shows that you respect the other person. If you break this boundary, you are more likely to appear disrespectful or even threatening.
Crossing your arms seems unsympathetic
If you cross your arms over your chest, you create a small wall between you and the person you are talking to. This makes you seem more dismissive and closed. Even if it seems comfortable in the situation, ask yourself whether you want to give that impression.
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